09. 11. 2016
Self-confidence is one of the most important conditions for a happy life. Only a confident person is able to take considered decisions, take responsibility, be a full member of society. Confident people believe in themselves. They know that they have enough forces and energy to the embodiment of their desires. The doubts do not allow enjoying the life, make people constantly fluctuate. False, spontaneous, thoughtless decision is a result of the doubts. A confident person learns from his mistakes, draws conclusions and moves on. And for the constantly doubting people mistake is an occasion to reproach themselves, mark down their self-esteem.
A self-confidence depends on several factors: education, relationships with parents and other people around us. The amount of criticism and an ability to perceive it also influence the degree of confidence.
If you consider yourself a confident person, it’s great. And if it is not so? How to improve a self-esteem and evaluate yourself at your true worth? How can we become more confident?
Let’s start with the simplest thing. It is much easier to change the appearance than to make adjustments in the consciousness. Moreover, when you are well dressed, tightened, self-esteem will rise itself. Go in for sports. Make it a rule to visit a beauty salon regularly. Spend time for the beauty procedures at home. Try to look well regardless of the situation. Change the image. Review your wardrobe. It’s hard to feel for all 100 if you have greasy hair, dirt under the nails, and you wear the coat of your grandmother.
Of course, it is better not to deal with pathological pessimists. They sow around fear and insecurity. But if there is such person in your surroundings, try to communicate with him less. Or you can re-educate him. Diffident people should surround themselves with those who are able to create, to think rationally. Pessimism does not raise self-esteem. Communicate with people who inspire your confidence, set a positive way.
One reason for the uncertainty may be a fear that others know more than you do. Engage in self-education. In today’s world, all conditions have been created for this purpose. You can attend classes, seminars, workshops. The training courses and a lot of useful materials are laid out in the Internet. You can also join the community, which matches your interests. You will be able to communicate with people who have the same preferences. Learning foreign languages, programming, design – you can choose all you want. All you need is desire!
Determine the things that help you to enjoy life and move forward. Music, books, communicating with friends … Increase the number of positive moments in your life. Be always positive. Do the things which bring you real joy and a sense of harmony. Set yourself up for success.
Define concrete goals you want to achieve in life. Sometimes uncertainty is related to the fact that you just do not know what you want. Sputtering on different things distracts people from the main one. You waste time, but do not go along with a dream. Set a realistic goal and go to it confidently.
Do not compare yourself with others. Evaluate yourself and your actions only in relation to your life. You should not be equaled on others. You do not know the true picture of their life. We see only the things that people show us. So it is pointless to be similar to someone. Be an individual.
There is a good proverb ” It’s not gods who make clay pots”. Everything is in the person’s hands. You have all the chances to cope with any business, regardless of its complexity. Be confident in your abilities. Do not be afraid of living. Act. Do not give up after failures. Mistakes are the source of experience. They are essential to achieving success and becoming a full-fledged personality. Believe in yourself and be determined to win. Fight with fears. Just know that you will achieve all that you need. You should make some efforts for this purpose.